April 27, 2009

there's got to be more to teenage years than an internet existence, right?

somehow, between the blogs that I check almost daily, my facebook that I scan just for the heck of it, chatting because I forgot how to read someone's tone of voice, twitter for the seriously bored, and convenience friends to complain about friday's exam with, I'm gradually losing my friends - the really truly friends. I wish I'd realized sooner. I hope it's not too late.

maybe "modern technology" isn't as great as we generation Y people make it out to be.

maybe we aren't as busy as we say we are. maybe we're just busybodies.

I would like to, more than occasionally, pick up the phone and call you guys. and I would like to get together...you know, social life? I think parents and grownups underrate a teen's need for a social life. honestly, how important is school if all of a sudden our friendships are suffering? sure, school's important, but I don't want it to take precedence over people. people mean a lot to me.

or at least they used to. and I want them to again.

so I'm going to try. bug me if I'm not calling you. maybe ask if we could hang out on a certain date, or go to some play or whatever together. I'm sick of being a 17-year-old facebooker just like everyone else, who can't even make it two hours without texting.

~a reforming teen~

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  2. Oi! What am I? Choped Liver? ... Don't answer that.

    And what is this thing you call Social Life? People tell me I should try it some time. Is it any good, really? You can still be plenty social on the web ...

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  3. I certainly hope there is more than life to being a teenager. i don't even have a phone to text on . . .

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  4. Haha ohhhh Katie it's not all doom and gloom. It's rather interesting. Sometimes.

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  5. Verya, you know what we should do? Set up a weekly Bible study with Anna and Liz and my cousins and whoever else can make it. All of my successful friendships revolve around a common activity, right? I'm free every night except Tuesdays and Wednesdays.

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  6. cool, that's a sweet idea Em! Mondays work best for me...I'll have to get the ok from my mom.
    (but I doubt she's gonna say no to a Bible study, lol).

    Jacob: I didn't mean the internet is some big evil thing and you can't be social on it. it's just...I don't want to be casually social. I miss talking to people. and by talking I mean using vocal chords, not words on a screen. I'm not going to become a hermit and drop off the face of the world wide web, but I'd like to make things a little more personal with certain friends. things used to be more personal and we were closer friends. I find that the more I try to maintain friendships online only, the more superficial they become. and things can get really confusing too, haha.

    Katie: you are so mature my dear! you'll be alright. and don't worry about phones/texting or anything like that. it's just another big distraction to have, and for some people it becomes like an addiction.

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  7. hmmm. maybe you should chat more? lol. actually, there are a few people that i've only met online, but we have really deep conversations. and the best part about being online, is that you don't have any misconseptions. or is it preconseptions? basically, you don't see them, so you judge them by their words only, and i think it's a great way to get to know someone. though being blocked off from all humans? yeah, i'd get a bit saddend.

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  8. well I've had some extremely deep conversations via chat, and I'm not saying they're bad. I'm just not saying they're best, and I'm looking for best. I've had deep conversations with the same people face to face, and I've enjoyed those and gotten more out of those because I could see the person's face, hear their voice, watch body language, etc.
    I don't know, I guess I'm just old-fashioned in some areas. and cautious in others. a close friend of mine had a really bad relationship with someone she met online who seemed like an awesome person.

    maybe it's mostly a personal preference, but for me at least, I don't think I can really get to know someone through a computer screen. I at least want to give the old way another try, because it worked before all this crazy technology stuff.

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  9. I am feeling like all my friends are disapeering. The saddest part is I am not that busy. (btw, I did put a new post on my blog and I wasn't attempting to copy you Kacy.) *sigh*

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  10. I totally agree with you Kacy. We need to stay connected. A Bible study would be awesome.

    Personally, I'm fine with a whole lot of online friendships, so long as I actually get to see those same people in person enough. Seeing you all more would definitely be more.

    I agree with you to, Bo, that there are definitely some benefits to deep conversations online, but I think it is normally better for those in person . . . I mean, when you know someone online, AND in person, do you ever get the feeling that they are two completely different people? Especially if you can only have real discussions online, and never face to face. Then you have a problem.

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  11. Dang it. I have a problem. Rofl

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  12. Haha, thank you for providing the comic relief, Jacob.

    and thank you Beth - you kind of summarized everything I was trying to say in a better way thank I said it. :P

    alright, I'll talk to my mom about this Bible study business. Would we want to do it here?

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  13. Well, unfortunately not everyone has the benefit of personal interaction with friends outside blog and chat and facebook.

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  14. I was thinking the same thing Lindy.

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  15. :( I know. I wish so much that you guys lived where we could see you often.

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  16. Your house sounds good. I don't think it should be every week though. More like once a month . ..

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  17. My mom was thinking maybe like the first and third Monday of every month. does that work? I was in a Bible study once before that met twice a month and that seemed to work pretty well.

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  18. that sounds pretty good . . . what times? I know the watts have co-op on Mondays . . .

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  19. yeah I was talking to Anna yesterday and she has stuff in the afternoon. I was thinking probably in the evening - like an after dinner sort of time.

    does anyone else have input, or just Katie?

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  20. The storm is just beginning.


    Does that count?

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  21. sorry but I don't think it does . . .

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  22. hmm...

    It does make perfect sense when you put it in the proper context though.

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  23. hmm . . . what house are we talking? And what are we going to do for it?

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  24. did you read through everything beth?

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  25. Yeah, Monday night Bible Study. I'm in. We could rotate houses, or even meet at a Starbucks. Auburn seems pretty central to me... Anna? You in? Cousins? We should get Caitlyn too, and Crystal if she can make it.

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  26. between the watts and the hammermasters we can carpool . . .

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  27. sweet, that sounds good!
    I'll talk to my mom today or tomorrow to get things a little more hashed out.

    we'll probably end up scheduling it over email. I don't think Anna's been on much lately so I don't know if she's even seen this. and of course Caity doesn't have a blog. :P

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  28. GUESS WHAT KACY?!?!?!?!

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  29. what????

    lol sorry I haven't been on. I was on worship last weekend and my recital is this week so I'm kind of going crazy. I'll try and make a post today though - I really want to be here in the world of the living....

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  30. I was accepted in the Master's Mission!!!! EEEK!! *dances*

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  31. YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    as if you thought you wouldn't be accepted. very funny.
    but congratulations all the same!!!

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  32. huh???
    I feel like I am saying that A LOT!!!

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  33. hahaha, i missed all of this. i'd love to do a bible study, but pretty much not before June 12th or so. I have to
    a) apply and interview for jobs
    b) study for SATs and take them (in Centralia)
    c) do all my normal homework and study for finals
    d) prepare for the enormous formal recital on June 5th
    and e) fit in all the senior recitals of all my friends i can.

    lol, this is my life. but i would really really love to do a bible study.

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  34. ugghhh....could we not talk about recitals at all please? at least not until after Friday.

    we could start in June, maybe? I'm ok with that. maybe right after finals when we're finally out of school.

    what do you other peoples think?

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